We create our reality.

I have a handful of friends who are continuously reframing “reality” to stay a step ahead of their own thinking. It’s so easy to fall into righteous indignation or feelings of hopelessness when watching the news. It all comes down to this, “What are you thinking?”

These ideas are life-changing, just look at what the scientists are saying about the plasticity of the brain. We can change our thoughts and change our lives! But how? While the concept is simple, the logistics are not. Everyone has a different experience of reality.

Where are you now?

The first step in creating your reality is not as intuitive as one might think. You may rightly assume positivity is in order, but you also need to take stock of where you are now. You may feel the inclination to skip over this step and look ahead to where you want to be, but you can’t get there from unhappiness, disappointment or overwhelm. It’s not always comfortable to admit where we are. I’ve devised a little template for you to chart your whereabouts and your desired destination with a few steps in between. This week, let’s just have a look at where you are now.

If you’ve been doing personal development work for a while and the hoped-for success has not arrived, it could feel a little disconcerted to face where you are now. However, this one concept could bring a big ah-ha. Let me give you an example to make it clearer. Let’s say you have been longing for a new job, one that inspires you and pays a lot more than what you currently make. You’ve scoured the ads, talked to people, interviewed, visualized, used mantras, and written encouraging things on your mirror. If the job isn’t forthcoming, it may be time to explore whether you are ready for that job or if one of the following is holding you back.

A) You don’t think you deserve it.

B) Doubt, disbelief, and skepticism feel safer to you.

C) Based on your story and past experiences, you can’t help seeing yourself as a victim of circumstance.

Determining where you now allows you to navigate, to move incrementally to better feelings and thoughts and away from column 1, but you have to go gently. This is the inner work that makes all the difference in what shows up in your reality.

4 Columns

  • Start in column four. Write down several of your fondest desires, giving a very brief description of each.
  • Now jump to column one. Write how you honestly feel about each one. Where are you now? Be specific, how likely do you feel your desire is, what do you believe? Where do you feel stuck, or unable to make it happen? Are you ready to take responsibility for creating your reality?

Next week we’ll talk more about column one and the two steps in the middle which help you move to the right, getting ready to be ready. If you need some help, email me for a free 15 minute chat about where you are.