We live in a society where one person in four believes they have no one to confide in. Feeling connected to yourself is what differentiates alone from lonely.
I grew up in the wilderness of Alaska. I learned about stillness and being alone yet connected from the forest, the water, the rugged mountains, and even the cold. These experiences instilled in me an appreciation for observation and awareness. Being in nature reconnects us with present time, it aligns us with all and everything. The expansion you feel while being in nature is often a direct path to connection.
How do You Find a Stable Inner Connection?
The first step is observation. To step outside our own perspective requires keen observation. This is the primary tool in navigating every aspect of your life. To observe, we must put aside our judgments and interpretations and look from a neutral viewpoint. If you’re dealing with a lot of overwhelm, step out for a moment. Go for a short walk notice something beautiful or spend 15 minutes sitting near the water, even a fountain will do. Notice your breathing. Relax into your surroundings. If possible take off your shoes and socks and walk on bare ground for a few minutes.
Step two is Empathy…
Putting yourself in someone else’s shoes helps you perceive their experience with empathy. In this case you are looking at your own situation from outside your point of view. Be with yourself as if you were sitting with a dear friend. Feel whatever arises, don’t analyze, or search for a solution. Notice the feelings, like clouds moving across the blue sky.