Overwhelm has become a way of life for many women. Perhaps you’re under a lot of pressure, maybe you have financial concerns on top of more to do than there are hours in the day. You may feel frozen with indecision, or weepy, unable to cope, beyond able to try. Sometimes it may even feel suffocating, like you are trapped with no way out.
One of the keys to overwhelm is this: You cannot solve an emotional problem with your mind – by thinking your way out. To deal with an emotional problem, you must shift your attention to your heart.
- Slow down. Take a few deep breaths focusing only on your body and the breath, not on thought.
- If you can’t get out of your head, take a walk. Focus on your physical body and shift your attention away from thoughts.
- Feel what you are feeling. Acknowledge yourself and your emotions. If you need to cry, find a safe space and do so. Imagine how you might respond to a good friend in your position.
- Once you are stabilized, you can choose one small task and complete only that. If you are inclined to take on a second, do so only after checking in with your physical level of tension and your emotional state.
Focus is important, focusing on only what you are doing in any given moment is a saving grace. If you’re drinking a glass of water, notice the feel of the glass in your hand, the temperature of the water, the way it feels going down. Be hyper-present, directing your attention into the present and away from past or future where you tend to worry or become fearful.
My workshop 5 Steps to Grace is an excellent foundation for learning about overwhelm, resilience and conscious focus. If you are interested in a sound check-in for yourself, take my assessment at www.TruePotentialQuiz.com